talking to hot girls
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Power Egg
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| Posted: Aug 05, 2007 6:39 a.m. - Subject: talking to hot girls |
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why does this seem so hard to do? I’m guessing its just shyness or the fear of stuffing up, but this fear is what causes such tragedy to happen. How in hell can you act plain normal and relaxed WITHOUT the fear of screwing up? seems like I ONLY screw up when I fear of screwing up. And I’m having troubles just acting normal, and put myself in complete misery if I do screw up. It seems that it’s allot easier when I’m not distressed (which I currently am but I’m not getting into it). and by the way I don’t need any advise like "just be yourself" I’m needing advice on how to just talk as if I were just talking to someone else. Alcohol maybe? and there is no way in hell I’m touching drugs, as when I was 7 I had to take Ritalin for no reason at all for about 4 years. which has only fucked up heaps of things.
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Power Egg
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| Posted: Aug 05, 2007 6:40 a.m. - Subject: |
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A few errors, oh well.
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| Posted: Aug 05, 2007 6:49 a.m. - Subject: |
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Quote: It seems that it’s allot easier when I’m not distressed |
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| Posted: Aug 07, 2007 8:57 a.m. - Subject: |
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What are you good at? Do you have a nice body? Do you work out alot? Are you funny? Bring a wingman to start the conversation with the girls then have him start talking about a topic in which you are good at like a sport and have him be like "oh dude, are’nt you good at baseball?" And go from there. It really helps if you have confidence in yourself and it may take a while for you to build up enough.
And you can try working your way up. Get good at talking smoothly to semi-hot girls and slowly work your way up. Like practicing a new level on a video game. Don’t jump right into the hardest setting, figure out the map first then change the difficulty.
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Power Egg
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| Posted: Aug 08, 2007 6:53 a.m. - Subject: |
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Ok well I guess I do play guitar, and done a sport for a good 8 years with allot of success, so I’m ok with that part, But its the other part that I suck at. By the way, thanks to you for being practically the only one who commented here.
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| Posted: Aug 08, 2007 9:19 a.m. - Subject: |
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Yeah dude no problem.
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Normal Egg
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| Posted: Aug 16, 2007 9:31 a.m. - Subject: |
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That’s a pretty common concern you have there. And believe it or not, girls feel the same way. Even the hot girls can feel insecure & goofy. Teen girls are always down on themselves & seeking approval, that’s why so many have eating disorders & other problems.
Ok, now that you know that girls feel just as nervous & depressed as you do, hopefully some of the anxiety is lifted, but we’re not done yet. It sounds to me like you also need some tips on what to actually SAY when you’re talking to them. That’s easy. Say very little. Girls love to talk & talk & talk. Let them do all the work. Girls like a little mystery in a guy anyway. Plus, the more you listen & I mean really listen to what a girl says, the more you’ll learn how to interact with them.
"Be yourself"-- what a pile of bullshit. I hate it when people say crap like that. Who are we anyway? Teens are still trying to find themselves, so how can you really be yourself? A better strategy is to mildly mirror what those around you are doing, without being a copy-cat or compromising what you believe in. (don’t do something you don’t want to do just to fit in.)
So if the girls are just chilling, sitting back, listening to the music, you do that to. Don’t feel like there’s too much silence so you have to start talking. That’s a major mistake I used to make. It just makes you look like a goober if you talk just to fill the silence.
I have to run now, but I’m sure I’ll think of more to add later.
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Power Egg
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| Posted: Aug 16, 2007 3:03 p.m. - Subject: |
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Sorry i havnt been here for i while, i can get around to everyone unless they come to me and tell me they need help (which is what my AIM name is for)
Anyywayyy, Just know that girls are people too, you have just built up all these ideas around them and now you cant talk to them because it scares you.
Strip away the make up and the hottness, and you still have just a person there.
Your only concern and getting them to like you.
I would say, act chill, when they say hi, SAY HI BACK, and when they are talking dont imagine a "hot girl" talking. Just imagine a person, because thats what they are.
I hope that helps a little, because thats the truth.
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| Posted: Aug 16, 2007 11:40 p.m. - Subject: |
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thanks for that advice. really is starting to make a diference.
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